OK, I know I haven’t written in ages. I just haven’t really felt inspired by, well, anything.
But a tweet has driven me to post. A dear friend (you know the sort – the one you haven’t met yet) posted something that has a story that needs to be told. This friend – many of you will know her because she has been tweeting about it – has been going through one hell of a hard time lately.
Through many struggles in her personal life, a relationship break-up, some quite nasty business and struggles to find her own place, things start to look up. A new relationship – one that looks really promising. But her little daughter falls ill. Really ill. As in hospitalised ill. The poor little girl is in great pain. The mother is distraught.
Then the new boyfriend dumps her. Just before Christmas. With a seriously ill child. Because it is too much for him.
What kind of fuckery is that?
Here’s a lesson to anyone out there who can’t see what is wrong with this. When someone is really suffering, someone close to you, and they really, really need you, how you feel about it doesn’t mean shit! When someone needs you, especially at an emotionally charged time like Christmas, just hold on. You don’t have to be their only support.
In any case, being there for someone is so fucking easy. You just have to be there. All it takes is existing.
I know things are tough for some people. I know everyone can cope with things in their own way – and some people can’t cope with things that others manage comfortably. But when in a relationship, you are there to support your partner. And when they are suffering, the last fucking thing you do is drop them and run.
For fuck’s sake, at the very least excuse yourself on some pretext to give yourself some space, but do NOT end the relationship like that. It just made me so angry.
I can only hope that friend finds 2012 brings some peace. And to everyone. Because for so many – especially those in Christchurch – 2011 has been one shitty year.